Any of y’all going to Creating Change in February?
It’s in Denver!
dang, much needed post. is it cool to reblog this?Yes, you can reblog. The language is messy and my writing is hectic but yes you can reblog.
I get so fucking annoyed by non-femme identified queer men using female adjectives/pronouns in reference to femmes
It infuriates me especially when it’s in Spanish.
Non-femmes will call us pasivas, and locas, and jotas, and ella, she, her, miss thang.
I use feminine/masculine adjectives in flux. I don’t mind it AT ALL when a femme calls me mija, chica, girl. I don’t mind at all cuz I know it comes from love.
BUT the moment a non-femme calls me or mine words that do not value the complexity of our expressions, they are on my shit list. I can’t stand it.
The thing is, I see it happen with non-femme identified queer men all the time. And trust me, I notice when y’all use puta and loca but never querida, bella, mija. I notice how all the feminized words are double edged swords meant to cut your friend just a little by associating them with “bad womanhood/femininity.” I know it’s a lazy read.
And that’s why I don’t have many non-femme friends. Most of y’all aren’t safe to be around. I just end up being Jack McFarland to your Will Truman.